One Bold Reason to Live

Beijing Opera Mask

It’s a bold and courageous act.

It’s so courageous that few people pull it off.

It’s simple, it seems…but it’s so hard to do and — it’s even tougher to keep up.

It becomes complex.

Take off your Mask of Boredom.

People and cultures and advertising and your most intimate social network all try to trap you. Your Tai Chi school or your parish or your drinking buddies will try, one day or another, to weigh you down with…

You can’t.

It’s impossible.

You’re not ready.

You’ll hear one of those, or something like it. And the idea, coupled with your belief in it, the philosophies surrounding it, and all the circular, intellectual arguments for it, will keep you from the one bold act.

The One Bold Reason to Live….

To Experience Awe and Wonder

First: take off your Mask of Boredom.

All around you everyday, colleagues, coworkers, friends, and loved-ones act crabby, put-off, angry, submissive, and ignorant. Rude people radiate rudeness and it’s catchy. It’s easy to catch it. But it’s not brave and it’s not powerful. To reflect and refine crankiness only reinforces it.

Fang Mask Louvre

Removing the Boring, Submissive, Bitter Mask breaks patterns and stirs anxiety. It’s tough.

It leaves a wake of emptiness. Because crabby and ignorant and submissive give you permission to bitch and complain, removing the Boredom Mask is tough. You don’t have to…you can keep on acting ignorant and timid.

To take off the Mask of Boredom takes guts.

Taijiquan and internal arts (like Qigong and Baguazhang) offer frameworks for breaking the Boredom Mask.

It requires combat experience.

Breaking the Mask of Boredom won’t happen with relaxing, soothing self-assurance.

You have to break something.

You have to gain confidence to smash beliefs and ideas and all those little mantras of submission.

I’ll show you what I mean. Stick around.

After you smash the Mask of Boredom: Put on your Mask of Wonder.

I’ll go over that too…soon.

13 Responses to One Bold Reason to Live

  1. Steven,

    I like the way you put this. Attitudes are catchy, I guess that’s why its so important who we hang around with. ;-)

    John

  2. Rick Matz says:

    Very good post. You make your own life.

  3. S.Smith says:

    Mr. Crewdson,

    Yeah, I’m with you…it’s key that we choose who we hang with…and then when students or others choose us, we must find ways to maintain our vision and lead well.

    Like a rock in a stream…

    Mr. Matz,

    Thanks. To bear the weight and responsibility for choosing Aha!…one needs good posture.

  4. walt says:

    One thing I noticed early-on was that, as long as I had Taiji to practice, I would never be truly bored. But this has become truer than I originally thought.

    For the striving-to-learn, the investigation, the grappling with the form and with myself — as you said, the “engagement” — all these finally will wake up the intelligence. And intelligence has an affinity with Truth, which cannot be exhausted.

    So I adopted a saying of one of my mentors: “I may have many problems, but boredom is not one of them!”

    Thanks for the post, Steven!

  5. Robin says:

    Let me just say, kudos for using a Lucha Libra mask in this post! :)

    I find that the people who try to tell me that I can’t do something, usually feel that way themselves. They don’t want to risk taking off their mask, so they try to bring down others as a way of justifying hiding behind their fear and boosting their own ego. I see it as a way of running from fear – if I convince you that my mask is real, you will never challenge me and I will never have to confront myself. Boredom is safe…wonder is risky!

  6. Jeff says:

    Excellent post! Rudeness is catchy. We have all returned rudeness with rudeness, and we all feel justified doing so. Biting one’s tongue to end the cycle is tough!

  7. Ikigai says:

    Well stated. The strong impulse to not stand out is only trumped by the desire to not have others stand out above you.

    It’s a difficult trap to avoid.

  8. JC Carter says:

    Very well put, Steven.

    Boredom, ignorance, timidity, rudeness, etc., are all masks that we comfortably put on because it’s easier than facing our true selves. Delving into the internal arts like Taijiquan, Baguaquan, Tsing-Yi,Qigong, and even Falun Gong and traditional Yoga can help you to “safely” remove those masks and face yourself and learn to accept and like yourself without the masks.

    PS, I like the Supreme-Ultimate Wake-Up slogan.

  9. Nate says:

    Interesting to examine the concept of fear in our lives and to idenfity the things that we fear and how that causes us to act. Fear disquises itself as many things though, it takes a deep look to identify it – at least for me.

    We all know someone like in this example and I’m sure we can all make a list of our own of the things they are protecting themselves from, the things they fear.

    Be a warrior – face your fears, conquer them. Amongst other options, learn an internal art with strong and real martial application. I’ve personally benefited from studying at Real Taiji and am making clear and steady progress to becoming the warrior I need to be.

  10. shasta says:

    Agreed!! Lovely. Are you and Shannon really moving to Michigan? A month or so ago I met someone who’d just had dinner with the both of you, and she said you were off to the woods.?

  11. Josh Young says:

    Great article!
    It reminds me of me.

  12. Neal Martin says:

    Hi Steven. Nicely put. I try not to get too pulled in by negativity of any kind these days, though sometimes it is hard resist, thanks my conditioning. I’m working on it though. I know things will get easier when I finally shed all of the baggage that weighs me down.

    We were meant for greater things than bitching and moaning and complaining and being bored. Knowing this is one thing, believing it is another.

  13. S.Smith says:

    Thanks Neal. Yeah, negativity has some attraction, some pull like some kind of magnet. Resistance is key, I suppose. Sometimes I play a game: no condemning, complaining, nor criticizing (no 3 C’s) for a whole day! I keeps me quiet.